Dating conversation games
It can be awkward to run out of things to talk about on a date. It can be even more awkward to have the same conversations you’ve had on every single date you’ve ever been on.
Emotional, personal information exchange during first date conversation promotes powerful feelings of connection.
Via Sam Gosling’s book, Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You: Arthur Aron, a psychologist at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, is interested in how people form romantic relationships, and he’s come up with an ingenious way of taking men and women who have never met before and making them feel close to one another. Instead of talking about the World Cup or their favorite desserts, they shared their innermost fears or told the story of losing their virginity.
Accept your date’s pass, redirect it slightly, and then return the ball— all with warmth and genuine interest in his or her responses.
This acceptance and redirection is the push and pull that creates smoothness.
the conversations about travel tended to revolve around great holidays and dream destinations, and that makes people feel good and so appear more attractive to one another. This is how to have smooth first date conversation. Don’t dominate, but don’t be a non-contributor either.